26 April 2012

Looking Young

This picture was taken in Kodaikanal in 2009 on my 32nd birthday.

A response on Facebook was “you look young” Now readers, since the past two whole weeks I had been scratching my head vigorously, trying to come up with something to write on, & nothing, absolutely nothing, had struck me. (My last post was on Apr 10th). The infamous writer’s block had bitten me again. And this time it was such an excruciating dry spell that, when I got that comment on FB, I thought why not write on this? So bear with me!

Is there a downside to looking younger? I’m not talking of “being young” but only “looking” young, younger than your calendar age. Trust me - there is!

The times I hate the “you look young” stare is during interviews. It gives me a completely unnecessary 2 minutes of initial hurdle to cross. The famous ‘First impression is the best impression’ goes for a toss when your prospective employer doesn’t take you seriously, at first glance, because he thinks, you look too young for the role/position applied for. And in my mind, I catch myself venting my anger, “I HAVE worked for 9 years Sir. I’ve slogged my ass off all these years & you won’t believe me?” The incredulous look on their faces rattles me. Before they open their mouths & ask, “Do you really have that much experience?” I go into an overdrive, explaining all the great things (supposedly) I’ve accomplished, in the past decade, starting with my auspicious birth in 1977 (no, actually, not that!!) to the post-graduation in 2000 & my momentous work life saga from then onwards. It is another story that they are convinced within the next couple of minutes & in my mind I’m back to heaving a sigh of relief & feeling good about not looking 40 when I’m still 35! I make it a point to wear saris for interviews with my hair rolled into a bun, to add a few “mature” years to my appearance. And I’m thankful, as I walk out, for the money spent on hording all those crisp, starched cotton saris.

During meetings, in office /college/seminars/conferences/wherever, no one initially takes me seriously. They don’t even look/glance in my direction. I am left to listen in while the whole room is busy shouting & drowning out each other’s highly knowledgeable opinions. And then l decide “Enough is enough”, drop a few quotable quotes & force them to sit up & take notice.

During my daily evening visits to the neighborhood park, none of the other mothers/aunties involve me in their all-important Child Behavior Analysis sessions, always assuming & looking at me, as if asking, “What can she possibly know?” And thinking, at best, I must be my daughter’s much younger maternal aunt, or at worst, her much older sibling. A couple of them actually asked me to my face, ‘Where is her mother?’ And I am like, ‘Excuse me? I AM her mother’ Till about 3 years back, a question like that would infuriate me no end. At the time I was still very high-strung with all the single parenting I was doing. It’s only now that I don’t take it to heart so much.

In buses, no one offers me a seat even though I’ve officially been an aunty for the past so many years. I’m getting older by the day & though people think I look young, I’m not getting any younger. Can you even begin to imagine my paranoia that I’m getting closer to the dreaded 40?

But hey, there is an up-side (obviously) to the story too. The best thing is even though I’m older than Sathya by a few years (ok, by exactly 3 years 9 months) NO ONE has, till date, been able to tell the age difference between us. Thanks to his build, I’m the petite, young wife to an older, taller, heftier giant of a man! Until & unless we expressly tell them & even when we do, they look at us with disbelief. According to them, it is just not possible that Sathya is younger than me. And no prizes for guessing who is having the last laugh!

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  1. Hehe... i hav a cousin who faces the same problem.. She gets younger by the day! Fun read... :)

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    1. heheh.... it is a problem alright :D i can empathize with your cousin

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  2. This is a double edged sword if there ever was one :P.

    Its good to look younger than you actually are; that way

    a) Younger people will mix more freely with you, where you end up having way more fun than with older-mature adults.

    b) It must be fun surprising people when you tell them that you are actually older than your husband and you are indeed the mother and not the aunt of your daughter.

    Interesting perspective to a not so common scenario.

    Cheers :)

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    1. yeah that's true - the two points u mentioned

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  3. :) Nice one. About 5 years ago while I started to hit the aerobics sessions quite regularly, I lost good amount of fat and also became an active fit person. Along with these came a special benefit - "You Look young". Though me and my younger sister are 4 years apart in the calendar age , we pretty much looked same in size and fitness. It really brings the good feel I tell you.

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    1. aah! aerobics! i hear people saying once you get hooked to it, you really get addicted to it and the benefits are well-worth all the effort

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  4. Sujatha, You should be celebrating rather than trying to convince others about your real age and maturity level! Girls, mothers and grandmas will die to learn the secret from you which you kept us in dark about:)I too tend to agree with most when it comes to you!

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    1. secrets? haan ... that can make good fodder for my next post :) thank you Sir

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  5. You know what, I had read that comment by your friend on FB and as soon as I read the title of this post, I figured out 'that' comment has inspired you to write this post. :P

    You definitely do look much younger than your age and it IS definitely a good thing, its a blessing actually. That neighborhood park para reminded of those cheesy Santoor ads. Maybe that's a idea you could implement when few of those aunties are around. Have Tanvi call you "mummy" from far away then no one will have any doubt whether you are her aunt or a much older sibling. :D :D

    PS: Even after my suggestions you still didn't manage to give a caption for your pic :( *Sigh*

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    1. hahah ya ya maybe i should stage that whole "mummy" gimmicks ... for the fun of it :)

      arey that picture caption thing just didnt work. no option comes up at all no matter when i click the image. i am still using the old blogger interface. could this be the reason?

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    2. Oh maybe, I was talking from the new blogger interface perspective. New interface is much more user friendly I feel so you can temporarily switch to new one and try to use, if not you can always go back. :)

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    3. yes, i will do that. thanks again Akshay

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  6. Oh my gosh that so true.. No one can say that u r 35.. And i think u shud take it as a compliment. *hugs*

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    1. looks like i surprised you. yeah thanks Sonia

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  7. At least now you grow up...lol

    just kidding..!!! Anyhow who cares for them. Acutally you should not talk to those Park Aunties. Your thinking get corrupted. Do not become single dimension person. I admire you because you have something to offer on any topic under this universe. Only few have such thinking. Keep inspiring more people.

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    1. haha yes time to grow up ... park alli swalpa push-ups madbeku inmele :)

      thanks Suraj that was very nice to hear

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    2. Whatever you do, you cannot match Sathya Physic...hahaha

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    3. adantu noorakku nooru sathyaney :)
      nan kailei ashtondu thinakkagallappa :DD

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  8. Congrats Sujatha:) keep it up! you'll love it after 5 years from now!(...and thereafter:))

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  9. Looking younger than your age is a blessing.Enjoy it as long as it is there.But what foxed me is your statement that sari and a bun add mature look.Maturity I thought is discerned from the way one talks,carries oneself about and the wisdom displayed.Apparel can make one look older as they do in drama theatre but not any more mature than what one is.Lols

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    1. yes Sir...you are right - maturity comes from what is within & the way one behaves. at the same time, the way one dresses can add/subtract a few months/years off our calendar age. and it works for the first few seconds of 'first impression'

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  10. Although I agree with the downsides, but that's indeed a compliment!! :-)) yes you dont look your age :-)

    And yes, I didnot guess Satya was younger to you, when I read, 'how I met your father' post.

    And lastly, No matter how old or young one looks, maturity IS NOT directly propotional to age. Not sure, why people always judge on the basis of how old one looks.

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    1. this is just a light-hearted take on the whole looking young thing. very strictly speaking all those are hardly a 'downside' :))

      absolutely Jenny - maturity is not proportional to age. why go far ... some of the 'young'bloggers i read are really far mature and i admire that about them

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  11. I on the other hand,have always been thought of someone who is much much older.I have thought of as being 40+ for the past 6 yrs eventhough I have few months left to become 35.Its a sad state of affairs isnt it.I wish I could wear tights and skirts and look cute and bubbly but I dress like an older woman.
    I was going to write about this topic but here you are.Loved the post.And yes,you are thin and do look young.And nO I would have never guessed Ur hubby was younger than you.I think when one is taller and heavier,they look much older than their age.And yes,like all of us,you too will freak out hen you become 40.I already freaking out over the prospect of turning 35 this yr.

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    1. yeah that is correct - height has got a lot to do with how others "feel" whether you are young or old ... his height & weight, mostly weight he has already crossed 115kg, works against Sathya

      and turning 40 ...aaaahhhh!!! freaaakingggg!!

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  12. wow..you certainly don't look your age. And yes I understand what you mean when you say people don't take you seriously. I have an acquaintance who is a mother to a 6 year old but looks like she is in college. While we mortals would beam at such a remark, she gets irritated that she looks far far younger for her age.
    Perceptions! is all I can say. Enjoy the compliments I'd say :-)

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    1. yeah can understand how she feels

      yup, time to enjoy n y not really :)

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  13. Well, I feel damn happy when people tell me that you don't look like you have a 10-year-old son :). What's not to like about looking young? And, no ma'am I've never faced any problems about being not taken seriously. Don't get so worked up or try too hard to convince others that you are older. Being wise or mature is not the domain of the elderly in any case.

    http://rachnaparmar.com

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    1. ya ya i agree being wise is not the sole jagird of the oldies :))

      this is just a light-hearted take on the whole looking young thing :) i wanted to break my jinx with something!

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  14. OH MY GOD!!! I am scratching my head now "scratch scratch !!! Am I the one who left a comment like that???scratch scratch !!!"

    LOL :D hey celebrate it ;) looking Young is a boon to women :D
    But you know what :D I am relieved knowing that the other side of the story also has disadvantages because I always :D am called Aunty even before ;) I was twenty!!!

    :)AWESOME POST!!! pls stay away from that writers block :D and I am super jealous that even with writers block u have come up with awesome post!!!

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    1. oh change in DP! 'sweet' photo hakidira

      no no that comment was not from you :D

      thanks Ramya :)

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  15. How I wish someone ever told me that.. I would get an instant heart attack.. ;) Nice read and yeah! grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. :p

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    1. thank you Haritha :) yeah the grass bit is true in many situations isn't it!

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  16. People or obsessed with age. I am shocked when people jump out of their skins coming across my twin daughters who are 12 and whom we were blessed with within the first year of our marriage. 'Didn't know you were that old!' We are told, and then those 'young' by virtue of their tail-enders' innings, start acting weird and slinking away, even if they have definitely put in a couple of years more under the sun. Now tell me, if we had (I and wify) chosen to have a kid at 40 (She's still not there), would that have made us young?

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    1. tough question that!

      sorry but what is tail-enders' innings?

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    2. Those who start reproducing towards the end of an innings, as in a cricket match.

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  17. Please share the RAAZZZZ :)
    You look active ,smart and very confident .I admire you :)

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    1. ok :) i will ... in my next post :)
      thank you Kavita for that lovely compliment

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  18. My wishes to you that you keep saying this for the rest of your life too :)

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    1. hehe what a wonderful wish :)
      reminds me of Ashley Montagu's words who said "I want to die young at a ripe old age"

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  19. I was concerned about turning 30 and becoming an uncle, till I read this post of yours. Now I feel younger :P :)

    Destination Infinity

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    1. hahahah chalo something good came of this post :)

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  20. This post got me really thinking (I sound like it is an obsolete practise :P) But I have never wondered that there could be a negative (or at least perceivable negative) side to looking young. :) You certainly look very young and I am sure (and I wish) it will stay that way as you seem a very active person. And though the initial 5 minutes might be a struggle, I can see you easily convincing doubters about your maturity. So I guess you can sit back and celebrate looking young. :)

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    1. thinking has become an obsolete practice alright :))

      yeah true sit back and celebrate i guess

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  21. Wow, Sujatha, besides looking young you have maintained yourself very well too! Double points! Pl. don't bother so much about what others say, they will do so anyway. Enjoy what you have, others are not so blessed!!

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    1. :)) ya ya ...

      thanks for the double 'points' :D

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  22. For me you look like 31 yr old lady..

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    1. ok! thanks :) minus 4 years is a lot :D

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    2. I will invent a real time machine for you..

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    3. not ok! no thanks :)
      i don't want to go back in time

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  23. First time I'm hearing a lady complaining about looking young.

    Looks like every silver lining has a dark cloud attached to it ..huh :-)

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    1. haha yeah ... just the initial few seconds in certain situations ...

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  24. We are so alike, I am older to Alok but don't like and even people don't take me seriously when I meet them in person for the first time. But, down the lane, we enjoy this compliment. Don't we???

    And, this line was something on which I laughed a lot...

    "I’ve officially been an aunty for the past so many years."

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    1. oh you too? okie :)

      yes, of course it's fun to hear the compliments from some people

      hahha the aunty thing

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  25. Our pair is like yours. I look small and thin, my husband if a six footer and hefty too! When we got married we were compared to Jay and Amitabh Bachchan!

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  26. wowwwwwwww :) :) enjoyed the post :) I know aunties who usually get angry when i call them "aunty":P :P What do they expect ??? AKKA (means sister):P :P you're awesome ma'm :) :) :) as a matter of fact you actually look a lot younger :):):)

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  27. he's younger than you??? cant believe really :)

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    1. hehhe he is ... i swear :D

      this aunty tag is a controversial one - others are clueless and aunties are offended :)

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    2. Looking young feels great why not???

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    3. Sriram,
      of course it feels great. i was just attempting to present the other side of the coin too :)

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  28. aap ki photo se aap ki umar ka pata hi nahi chalta :P :P...nice pic.. u look very nice :)

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  29. are you should be happy no, women will die to be in your shoes :)

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    1. i AM happy
      yeh toh bass other side of coin hai ... rare/occasional stuff that happens

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  30. i face similar problems too but in the end i enjoy watching shocked expressions :)

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    1. yup, kuch toh they look at you as if you are a liar or trying to fool them :D

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  31. girl i'll be 36 this year and it really ticks me off when i go to school at the beginning of the year to meet my tween's new teacher to have them look at me and ask where our mother is. and i can't have a girls night out without getting carded! plus i'm one month older than hubby, but he swears he's 25 so he tells everybody i am too. weirdos i tell you. sheesh. loved this post girl and so happy to meet you!

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    1. "where is the mother?" - ouch!!!!

      'getting carded' --- ohhhh :(

      yes, glad i found you too. thanks to USP :)

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  32. Ha ha.. I dont know how I missed the article and read only the twitter update :D .. I do agree looking young doesnt seem to be a great privilege but it sure does have its own benefits ;) .. Its sorta lil easier to get away with the mistakes when they treat us young and a lil childu types :D .

    but yea for the interviews, I guess it is time to start using white dye on the hair ;)

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    1. oh god what suggestion is that - white dye - NO WAY :DDD

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  33. I was actually working the other day when an older gentleman came in and we started talking. He asked when I graduated and when I told him, he said, "Oh, so you're 16?" I just turned 22 last November. LOL

    But I get that a LOT-Somehow, people thing I'm 16. It's always 16, too; not 17. not 15. Always 16 years old.

    My sister, who is about 18 or so months younger then me is always mistaken for being older (although she DOES look older but that's beside the point).

    So I can definitely sympathize with you here!

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    1. that's weird really - not 17, not 15 but always 16 !!

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  34. There's a plus side to being 32 and still looking young.. During interviews, you can showcase how much you know despite your perceived young age! Think about it, its a ideal selling point Sujatha.

    PS: A lady revealing her age to the world - that's rare! :)

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    1. usme kya hai ... all said & done, it is just a number really, at the end of the day ... hai na ?

      and yes, good selling point.

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  35. You know what Sujatha...I would gladly kill anyone who dares to call me aunty... (maybe except my kids friends!)

    psst..pssst..same pinch...im born in the same year as you..but like someone pointed out, I would rather people tell me how much i've achieved despite my young age..and blah blah!! it's quite a knocker people telling me how well I've "maintained" myself after 2 kids!!

    it's our luck we can still boast of "looking" young so I'd say enjoy it while the grass is still green... because I've seen some of my other friends who look double their age and they really depise it!

    So cheers to "looking young" and as the proverbial saying goes lets be 16 till we die!

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    1. Cheers!! and yes, lets be 16 til we die :))

      and in any case,as Satchel Paige says,
      "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?"
      it's all in the mind

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  36. Sathya sir is younger to you...lagta nahi hai...You maintained yourself very well and thats reflect in your personality.

    Lovely write up....Keep writing...

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  37. Looking younger has it own pros and cons,but it has always irritated me,rather than feeling good..see I am as old as parents of grown up children, but nowhere I get that treatment, rather I am expected to do lot of things for others , some of them may be in my age group only...

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  38. When 10 year olds used to call me uncle it was OK but when 30s and 40s call me uncle, well it sounds rather funny because am I supposed to act mature and not look at their pretty face!!!!Hey you have a daughter who is nearing 40. But then I think one never ages in mind.You will find at may be at sixty.My wife looks only 50 ish while she is nearing 68!I think it gives her lot of advantage. So enjoy the gift of nature

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    1. yes, that is a very interesting experience you have shared with us Sir :D

      and God bless your wife with greater vitality!

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  39. ha ha.. I completely agree... which is otherwise a compliment, becomes a pain to hear at many situations... well written... :)

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  40. ......now you are not being fair to the fair sex- I dare say ! "You look much younger " is almost always a compliment.There are jokes galore about people (?) hiding their actual age , and there was a dialogue repeated by a lady in a TV serial " aunty mat kaho naa!". I wonder, why you consider looking younger to be a downside. We do take you seriously but for once try celebrating this flattering proposition ! My own case is just the opposite, when years ago I had to face the question " Aap kab retire huey ?- when i had still a decade to reach superannuation , which now of course is a few months away !
    I have described my predicament in my Post "Abhi toh Main Jawan Hoon "

    http://aarkay-musings.blogspot.in/2010/04/abhi-toh-main-jawan-hoon.html

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    1. i am going there right now to read that very amusingly titled post :0

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    2. Thanks ! You visited the post !

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  41. Sujatha, When the whole world is grinning about 'not looking young' why are you worried my dear? :) On the other hand you can enjoy the attention you might get (from the aspiring males) lol...

    Good read.

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  42. Who would have thought that a women would not like to hear someone say " Looking so young", I sure can feel whats going on in the mind of the one who commented so! poor chap, He sure would be baffled!

    Nice write! You got a subtle sense of humour!

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    1. thanks Rupert ... the last line was music to my ears ... i so wanted to hear that because that has been the sole purpose of this post :)

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    2. Geez Sujatha! if I knew it I would not have said that! I just hate myself! hehe! :D

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    3. arggghhh! mean mean Rupertt

      :DD

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  43. It is really a boon to look younger than your actual age. When you grow old and old after some years,you will not note that you will still be younger in mind though your physical appearance changes. So young or old really depends on the condition of our mind rather than appearance. Do you agree?

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    1. yes Sir, i completely agree with that. the age of the mind is far more imp than that of the body

      as Mark Twain said once, "Age is an issue of mind over matter.If you don't mind,it doesn't matter"

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  44. Stay young, stay pretty. I hope to read another post on the same subject a decade later. By then, there'll be new tales; of that I'm sure :).

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    1. new tales? umm ... that brought a smile to my face because i was wondering what kind of tales

      thanks D

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    2. I meant, many more experiences (read compliments)like this.:)

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  45. That is a completely new turn to the 'you look young' dialogue. That phrase should usually make people happy :P!
    And personally I am very happy I am not the only one who has been away from posting and blogging for a long time!! :|

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    1. oh this month has been particularly bad for many bloggers, most of them have been struggling to post something

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  46. Well for me,I know I look my age so when someone says that to me I realize that the poor thing is at loss for words or does not know how to start a conversation or more commonly is fishing for help in some way or the other.
    waiting for the 'secrets to stay young and look younger' post from you :)

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    1. yes, that is a pretty common scenario too

      and haha ok will do a follow up post on this one. there has already been few requests and since i too am stuck with wondering what to write on next, the topic you suggested looks like a safe bet :)

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  47. You certainly look young & smart-enjoy it,other things are secondary.

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  48. hahaha, this was such a nice read Sujatha :). Though I can understand your irritation at how this translates at work and other such situations, overall I think you've got a good deal !! To be the "Santoor" mom is usually quite unusual for most of us, and though I've got the odd "You don't look like you have 2 kids" from the lady at the beauty parlour I am pretty sure they have a hidden agenda there ;).

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    1. LOL - yeah the salon staff is always up to something with their studied compliments

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  49. It has Pros & Cons Sujatha.. But you seem to have more of the latter one... You can always turn it to your advantage cos not everyone is blessed with younger looks! :)

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    1. hey no Anand... this is just a fun post ... nothing serious. but sadly looks like the "fun" part is lost, subtle humor is not my cup of tea :(

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    2. oops, didn't read between the lines.. Am happy that you take it humorously.. hahahaa

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    3. this is like one of those drawings i did as a kid where i had to write "this is a sunflower" "this is a moon" against the pictures i used to draw!!!

      :DD

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  50. Wish you many more years of youthful youth Sujatha..remain evergreen in your thoughts and in your words:)

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    1. that's a wonderful thing to day Arnab - thanks :)

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  51. you are the 1st woman to express regrets for being mistaken to be younger than what you are!!

    fun post!!

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    1. exactly - this is just a fun post. no regrets really :)
      i AM happy whatever way i look

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  52. Congratulations on your "young" look. People who think young look young ! Enjoy while the going is good ! Have a great Sunday !

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    1. thank you Sir ..
      yes as long it lasts, which may not be too long, i better enjoy this phase :)

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  53. Wonder how many people actually took gelusil after reading your article :D Lady.. Though it may look like double edged sword, it will work for you finally.. Because you can fill 2 stomachs never 2 eyes :P Aaha! Yen tatva :D

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    1. howdu...yen tatva adu? i mean..sorry adre nijwaglu tatva nan thaleg hathlilla :(( 2 stomachs - 2 eyes....?

      yenadru irli ...

      gelusildu odi nagu bantu :D

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  54. Hi Sujatha

    Millions of men all over the world are cribbing all the time coz their wives spend millions of dollars on face-lifts, etc etc in an attempt to look young...So I guess All you need to do is Scream Out in Joy and go prancing about like a deer ha ha !!

    On a serious note, I think its more important to feel young irrespective of your age and that would keep you in high spirits!!

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    1. absolutely - feel young, be young :)
      and in any case if we didn't have a calendar how would we know how old we were!

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  55. :) I must say that when i met you I too thought that you were so young and knowing how old you are , I still say you look veyr young. Wish i had that sort of face ..

    everything has a poistive and negative point as you say looking younger people dont take u seriously..

    excellent post :)

    Bikram's

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    1. thank you Bikram ...
      yeah for the first few moments people end to take you lightly thinking you are under-age.

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  56. That is a huge compliment..u must be happy that u look younger than ur calender age....U have crossed the danger period of 30-35 where most of us turn obese ...Thank ur body metabolism for that....Slim will remain sexy and there is every possibility that u will continue attracting male gazes even after crossing 40 :-)

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    1. Your real intent in this post was to show ill-effects of looking younger..I have a friend who too feels the same way..He is just the same as he used to be 15 years back..he really rues lack of respect due to his younger look.

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    2. hmmm ...yeah, i empathize with him

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  57. Once again the real essence(frank and forthright attitude) that the blog stands for is reflected in this post.

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    1. :) thank you Neeraj ... you really have a knack of getting right to the heart of the story

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  58. Hehe Good one :) Even my mom is like that... She keeps complaining that nobody takes her seriously, Because she looks young. But the fact remains.. Than it is everyone's dream to look young all the time :) Btw you look good in the picture.. :)

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    1. oh i have seen your mom's picture on your blog ... she is young and beautiful :)

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  59. and all the time i was thinking that it would be a compliment if i tell a girl that she is looking younger than she is... how fool of me :(

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    1. haha ... na na you can go right ahead and tell her that :)

      this is just me and a few others feeling this way on some occasions

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  60. haha you are very lucky indeed :D The pros of looking young are far more than looking the aunt or elder sis of your kid :D
    Actually the same is the case with S. He is older to me by a good 8 years but he looks young and looks only a couple of years older to me. People find it difficult to believe he runs a business ! :D :D

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    1. is that so? good for him :) owner's pride neighbor's envy haan! :DD

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  61. You definitely look young- and that is a good thing- although after reading what you have you wrote- I do realize there tends to be a down side to that....however, being someone who was always thought of as OLDER than I was...when I was 18 I was mistaken for my (7 year older) sister's mom-- and then they asked my dad if he was my sister's brother-- that means they thought I was my dad's mom!!!! ha ha!!...so yes, although the 'you look so young' comment may be hard to bear- it is better than 'you look so old' ha ha!! :)

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  62. It's was an enlighten for me as I always thought women always wanted to look young whatever their age may be. Tks for the blog. I also am pleased by writing a blog based on a comment. Hats off. Keep going. Stay young...oops...I meant young at heart.

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    1. thank you

      oh yes women always want to look younger. this is just a mock anger post on certain selected situations we encounter :)

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    2. Ok. Then woman have not changed......ha ha

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  63. hee hee ... don't worry Sujatha, you are not alone here :) I face this all the time. Initially I would explain. But now I am, sort of, tired. Now I simply avoid saying anything but try and give my best smile :)
    I feel its an advantage to look lovely and young. All my best to you, wish you look prettier and younger in the coming years. Take care.

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    1. thanks Ruprekha

      oh by the way, i am not surprised at all - you are gorgeous :)

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  64. Wow, I wish I was younger by a few years but I've been told tht my brain has stopped growin since a long time back.. :)

    But kudos to u fr not lookin ur age :)

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    1. if i can remember (the indiblogger meet), you look young too though i really have no idea how old you are by the calendar :)

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  65. Hi Sujatha

    Pls check

    http://jaishwrites.blogspot.com/2012/05/versatile-blogger-award-hip-hip-hurrah.html

    Regards
    Jayashree(jaishvats)

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  66. couple of days back, someone was speaking to my wife and then she introduced me and the person replied...yeh bachcha, is he your husband?

    :P

    i took that as a compliment...even guys can look young :-)

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    1. haha of course they can though it is rare :P and so you are lucky i guess :))

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  67. Really Sorry Sujatha. I Dont know how I missed your blog updates.
    This was an amazing read. Pardon me, But I was like smiling throughout, coz you thought of the apt situations when being young, could actually come at a disadvantage, given the fact that we all know how it would boost our image.
    But it's so true. You need to work extra hard to make people sit up and take notice of what you are capable of!

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    1. hey that's ok Ashwini. you scrolled down to read up on the older ones na ... that's the nice thing

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  68. First of all, let me hahahah....:) You know what, I am those who belong to that young looking category. It's not boasting, may be b cos of my petite looks or genes, I always get the compliment and am happy for it. Until I read this, I did not know there would be so many disadvantages to it. I know that people don't care me much b cos of my height and physical personality. Me and my husband always wonder and wanted to be tall persons (may be god should grant us in next birth), so that you know, people look up (at) you when they talk. Another good read...:)

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    1. thank you so much :)

      i am responding to your comment from an internet parlor. i would love to read you too. i will surely come over to your blog just as soon as my computer woes get sorted out.

      thanks again for going back to older posts and reading :)

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  70. Hi there actually I don't know how I bumped into ur blog , but it was total worthy, really suddenly I felt some one just like me, really well Im a Male 40 yrs now,my name is Kishore, (Sujatha is my wife) even ppl don't believe my age, but leave that, it is not imp I mean to say is, the way you carried all over your blog is too good very simple, stylish, cool & makes quite interesting, even I love writing blogs, but I don't know how do I build circle can u help me since I see you have more than 275 ppl ON with u how do u do it...pl help me if possible , I am professional Cake designer in fact I would love to give many recipes to all the food lovers in india, Im basically from B'lore but settled down here in Hyd. (after having a long stint with cruising Industry for the past 13 yrs now)reply only if u like to help me, build my audience.make me active just as u are. Im very good soft natured person.always think good for other's, so do the best for me if possible.

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    1. well, thanks for liking my blog and for writing in.
      as for building your blog, the most important thing i have learnt is to read as many blogs as possible. 275 on my blog is NOTHING actually. there are people with more than 500 or sometimes even 1000 people on theirs :))

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